How many times has someone asked to help you and you instinctively said “No” ?
And then find yourself struggling, later saying to yourself “I need a break” or “I need an assistant”?
I found myself today laying on a massage table and released how much my “allowing” has expanded the past 6 months as I have been in Warrior Goddess Training. Not just as a women, but as a woman, I realize now the subconscious brain washing that our culture puts on us to accept life as a struggle – that we are weak if we ask for help; that massages and yoga are luxury or for people who are spoiled. That this then carries over to: I am strong, I don’t need other people’s help, “I can do this all by myself.”
I now see this as a childish and selfish response as I reflect on times that I have offered help – how simple it is to carry someone’s bags to the car vs how difficult a mom can make it on herself to carry bags and a child vs how the person walking beside them feels left out and not included by walking her to the car and unable to help. People want to feel useful and needed. And it doesn’t make you any less of a super mom (or dad) by allowing someone else to help you carry bags. By allowing them to carry the bags you have included them in your process and world, you invite them into your process of being a parent.
And it doesn’t make you any less of a super mom (or dad) by allowing someone else to help you carry bags.
Going back to the massage table. – I am laying there, and instead of fighting the feeling of allowing myself to enjoy the massage, I allowed myself to feel supported and cared for. I felt this bonding of gratitude as this beautiful soul performed a loving act and something she truly enjoys doing. Money for the massage simply becomes an energy exchange. But what if you weren’t paying money? What if you had to offer that person something in return for the gratitude of the service? Would you view the service differently?
What if it was on a sliding scale payment? Would you pay the minimum each time?
How does this apply off the massage table?
Invite people into your life, into the simple processes. Things like sharing a meal or walk. Turn help and support into sharing moments. Stop keeping all of your awesomeness to yourself.
Our culture is more “connected” than ever but also more alone than ever too.
We need more human interaction.
It takes a village.
Kimberly provides so much more than just massage. Her room is like entering a mini temple of self care.
Not only is she facilitating in the body healing itself but also my spirit as I practice the Art of Allowing.
So often we get caught up (especially us moms) in trying to take on the world ourselves and we forget that help is there. We forget how to allow people to love us and allow support.
Winter is a time for reflection of your year.
How much allowing and support are you welcoming into your practice of living.
Are you practicing opening or closing?
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I suggest massage as an opportunity because we often find it hard to justify spending money on ourselves and our self care yet we can justify spending $100 at Target or Walmart on things that we think we need.
Imagine your world spending more money on self care and self growth, making memories and having less material goods. How would your world change? How much happier would you be?
Try switching your retail therapy for Yoga, Massage, a cruise with your 2 best friends (or 2 people you want to be your best friends).
How many true friends do you have? If not many, How often do you allow people in?
Start practicing The Art of Allowing.
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